DEFINITION: "Bullying is a pattern of repeated aggressive behaviour, with negative intent, directed from one person to another where there is a power imbalance" -- Dr. Dan Olweus. 1993.

A specific behaviour is bullying when it is?

  • Repeated over time
  • Is intended to hurt
  • Involves a power imbalance

Forms of Bullying are as follows, but not limited to

Physical Aggression            

  • Pushing, Shoving, Spitting      
  • Threatening with a weapon
  • Kicking, Hitting                       
  • Defecating on Property
  • Giving dirty look                       
  • Stealing

Written/Verbal Aggression        

  • Mocking   
  • Name Calling
  • Teasing
  • Giving Dirty looks                           
  • Intimidating telephone calls or electronic communications
  • Racist, sexist or homophobic taunting
  • Daring another to do something dangerous
  • Verbal or written threats against property
  • Verbal or written threats of violence or inflicting bodily harm
  • Coercion
  • Extortion                                                                                     

Social Alienation                   

  • Gossiping  
  • Embarrassing a student
  • Setting up a student to look foolish
  • Spreading rumours                        
  • Excluding from a group
  • Inciting hatred
  • Setting a student up to take blame
  • Public humiliation
  • Spreading malicious rumours                                                                                                                                            


School Staff

  • Teach and model social skills and provide opportunities for practicing these skills
  • Take all reported instances of bullying seriously
  • Investigate all reported incidents of bullying
  • Take appropriate action, or refer matter to administration
  • Ensure that all students are aware of what bullying is, that it will be taken seriously and will not be tolerated
  • Create open, caring and safe learning environments where students feel comfortable reporting bullying
  • Document the incident and when necessary report it to parents and administration
  • Develop classroom rules and expectations with students
  • Be vigilant in the classroom and observe the social relationships between students
  • Involve police as per section 7 of protocol
  • Provide parents with strategies and support in helping their children deal with conflict
  • Raise awareness of bullying through curriculum opportunities


  • Remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible
  • Report the incident to a person in a position of authority
  • Be firm and clear with the bully that you want the bullying to stop
  • Do not blame yourself


  • Report the incident to a person in a position of authority
  • Refuse to join in
  • Be firm and clear that you want the bullying to stop


  • Become educated on the issue of bullying and victimization
  • Create opportunities for your child to talk about bullying
  • Reinforce with your child the need to resolve conflict in a non-aggressive way
  • Model with your child non-aggressive conflict
  • Teach your child strategies in dealing with bullies
  • Take your child's complaints of bullying seriously
  • Inform the school immediately if you think your child is being bullied or is demonstrating bullying behaviour
  • Teach your child to avoid children with bullying behaviours
  • Support the school on anti-bullying issues and concerns


  • Provide bullying presentations to all students from elementary to secondary level on a minimum two-year rotation basis
  • Work closely with school staff to develop preventative and appropriate intervention as stated in section 20 of the Ontario North East Region Police and School Protocol
  • All other involvement as described in the Ontario North East Region Police and School Protocol
  • Attend parent forums when requested

School Council

  • Support anti-bullying initiatives and parental education


  • Your first response will be to get defensive but don't!
  • Investigate what happened between your child and his/her victims.
  • Talk to school administrators, your child, the victims and their parents.
  • Make it clear to your child that the family does not tolerate this type of behaviour.
  • Monitor your child's behaviour and watch their activities. Enforce the rules if they start to bully again and reward them if they stop their habit.


  • Create opportunities for your child to talk to you. Encourage your child to report bullying incidents to you.
  • Let your child know you will be there for them and that they are not alone.
  • Reassure your child that the bullying is not their fault and they do not deserve to be bullied.
  • Teach a bully-proofing strategy, for example, assertiveness.
  • Help your child find at least one supportive, loyal friend. Welcome your child's friends into your home.
  • Step in if the situation seems dangerous or if your child continues to suffer.
  • Find out what policies and procedures exist at the school for dealing with bullying situations.
  • Ask about our Bullying Mediation Program.

Our Bulling Mediation Program is available to all schools and parents. For more information on the Bullying Mediation Program call the Thunder Bay Police Service School Resource Unit at 807-684-1279 or 807-684-1280.


It can be alarming or even disappointing to find out that you child has reacted with anger or aggression to a situation. When you see your child responds with anger or aggression, TALK to your child about it.

  • Consistently reinforce the message "People are not for hitting/biting/kicking".
  • Suggest Alternatives for their anger like counting to ten, walking away and asking an adult for help.
  • Practice a situation and see how they will react to the problem.
  • Isolate the situation which likely led to the problem. Very often confrontation happens when children first start to learn a social skill like joining in or sharing.
  • Name calling should never be taken lightly as it may lead to a situation involving violence.
  • Discuss "Bullying" with your children and ask them to tell you whenever there are problems with a bully.
  • Bullying often involves violent behaviour and emotional abuse.
  • Bullying is spread by silence and fears don't let it go unnoticed.
  • Start early!  Teach your children not to hit or verbally attack from an early age.  The earlier they learn that this is not the way to react to situations when they do not get their own way, the more likely they will not use this tactics when they are older.




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